Me, Myself and Mayvelous
12 May
I read this news, Going to school ‘not compulsory’, on BBC other day and am thinking about it since.
Parents in England are being reminded that they have the right to educate their children at home if they wish.
My school years were filled with memories and remembrances that would sink in for the rest of my life. I enjoyed everything about my school life. You can appreciate more once you finish school and getting away from school environment. People tend to say they hate schooling or studying and just want to get over with it but in reality every single one of us misses our school lives later in our life. My high school and Uni years are nothing extraordinary yet they are one of my treasured memories. I’ve never think of home schooling as any normal person’s choice and I only understand those who home-school are to be:
Apart from those people, the average normal family should send their children to school and make the schooling (study at school) compulsory. After reading the article, I got some thoughts of my owe. What would I do in this case? What if I am a parent and am given a choice to either home feed the kid or send them to school? My answers are quite obvious and simple. If it’s in any normal situations, I’ll send my kids to school and never let them stay at home. If they don’t want to go, I’ll make them go. For the age of 1 – 18 they are in my control and for that they must act as I say. So go to school or ELSE!!!
These are some of the reasons they gave for home schooling.
SOME REASONS FOR CHOOSING HOME EDUCATING
- Distance or access to school
- Religious, cultural or philosophical beliefs
- Dissatisfaction with the system
- Bullying
- Short-term particular reason
- Child’s unwillingness or inability to go to school
- Special educational needs
- Parents’ desire for closer relationship with children
The article mentioned the pros only. What about the cons? My response to the above given pros would be :
Here are more of my thoughts on some quotes in the article.
It is the legal right of parents to educate their children at home if they so wish and the Department for Education and Skills supports the right of parents to make this choice for their children.
It’s unspoken yet always there as one of the parents’ rights. There is no need to emphasize that it is a legal right. But since it has been legalized, it is better for those who needs an acknowledgement.
It really is so heart-warming to families to have their choices recognized in this way.
Sometimes having too many choices make you go stray. You get confused what to choose. Sometimes I wonder why can’t we all be given one best choice and just follow that? I always have a great difficulty making decisions. What if the one you choose is the wrong choice for you? You’ll be regretted for the rest of your life. Too many choices make me go nuts!
But the authorities have no right to enter people’s homes or make routine checks on children’s progress.
Again, too much freedom can be very dangerous if it is being misused. In this case, how can one monitor the progress of a child?
“Children learn in different ways and at different times and speeds.”
That is true, but IMHO they learn more in the presence of competitions and social interactions. They speed up their abilities in the presence of friendship and team work, provided that they are with a good peer group. Competition is a catalyst for personal improvement. Depending on how a person handles it, competition can either boost your goals or put you in misery and self depression. But for me, every competition is a good competition whether you win or lose. If you have the ability and strength to stand up for the competition then you are already a winner.
Home-schooled kid is like a little bug in a cocoon where he thinks the cocoon is the only world he know of and he exists around his little world.
# It restricts the social and mental development of your child. For eg. They might not know how to communicate with their peer group, how to handle different mind-sets.
# They lack social experiences such as school trips, parties, sports events etc.
# They most probably become a mommy/daddy boy, who don’t know how to grow up and always sticking to the parents.
# Time management problems. No good concentration at home, you can never do something properly at home in one sitting cos’ there is always too much distractions around.
Also there are some points that the article didn’t explained on which I wonder over.
# What about the home-school course work compare to proper school curriculum?
# What would they do for the tests and exams?
# Who would decide whether those home-school kids are qualify for the level?
# Which grades or reports they show to enter universities? (what are the prove of their qualifications?)
# Who would design/decide on those grade reports ie. which grade to give them? (since the educators are the parents themselves and no interference from outside is allowed)
# Will the employers accept those home-feed kids as qualify people for the job?
and so on……….So, if you are given that kind of option to either send your kids to sch or home-sch, what would you do/choose? Now it’s your turn. Let’s think it through and share with me.
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10 Responses for "School – To Go or Not To Go"
I really think you should do some research into home education before you make these comments.
You obvoulsy have no idea what you are talking about.
I am a qualified primary teacher and now a home educator. So can see it from both sides.
I have no doubt that home education is by far the best option for children if their parents are dedicated to it and have a love of learning themselves. If you can’t wait to get rid of your kids each day at school, then it is obviously not for you.
If, however, you love spending time with your kids and love to see them get excited about learning something new then you would make a great home educater. You do not have to be rich or need to have any teaching qualifications or indeed any qualifications so long as you like learning yourself and are keen.
My children have lots of opportunities to socialise with others, we go to groups and meet up with other home educated children and their school going friends on a regular basis. They do out of school activities like swimming and gymnastics, wildlife watch groups etc…. They are happy, motivated and keen to learn because they have the opportunity to learn whatever they are interested in. We do not have to follow a restrictive national curriculum.
Children learn best when they are happy, when they have chosen to find out something for themselves and when they are not under pressure.
The positives of home education are endless and I can honestly say that we have not found there to be any negatives…apart from having to continously put up with ignorant comments like the ones in your article…
You really need to do some reading. I suggest looking on the following websites:
Education Otherwise
HEAS
Muddle Puddle
You may also find books by:
John Holt,
Roland Meighan,
Gareth Lewis,
Ivan Illich
to be of interest, as well as the recent research done by Paula Rothermel from Durham University……
There is loads of stuff on the internet about home education, just ‘google’ Home education.
Most people in the uk use the term ‘home education’ not home school…. if you type in home school most sites will be American…
Education can take various forms and follow all sorts of paths…….School is not the only way….
Think, then research and then think again, only then is your view worth anything…
Lisa
Well, it’s all about what is best for your child. And unlike what you stated, your children will absolutely go, I think each child even within a family must be looked at individually.
For example, my 7th grader would like to be homeschooled (we’re leaning that way), not because he’s lazy (he’s an honor student), not because he’s being bullied, not for religious reasons, but he he wishes to learn more and more deeply than what our school system can provide. They’re a great school, but we spend a tremendous amount of time, after he’s already attended a full day, supplementing to meet his needs and desire for more. Our 5th grader enjoys school, does well, and is challenged and satisfied. He would not like to be taught at home and has expressed this, so we wouldn’t.
I disagree over your broad generalizations of homeschooled “cocoon” kids. Working in the public schools, I have seen those same “type” of children there. Suggestion – avoid generalizations.
Again is about the individual learner.
As far as your questions regarding testing etc… those decisions are to be made by the homeschooler, if homeschooled, and by the public schools if the child is enrolled there.
There are instances of educational neglect in both public schools and homeschools.
Again generalization, in my opinion should be avoided.
I am impressed with your intellect and personality. They are apparent in your post. You seem like a friendly, outgoing person.
I’m wondering though, do you have children? Many of the concerns you have such as testing, socialization, higher education availability, etc. are all concerns of a good parent from day one, regardless of how they are educated. If you don’t get any other replies about the details of these you can reply to me and I will send you a detailed email explaining various particular ways a parent can successfully homeschool.
It is good in life to remember that different people are different ways. My memories of public school were bad. I for the most part didn’t like it. My Mom taught me to read before I went to school and would have continued to educate me at home if it had been available. My children seem to be like me and enjoy being taught at home. I believe you when you say your memories were good. It might be good to think that when a homeschooled kid says they are enjoying being taught at home they are telling the truth as well.
It would be wrong for me to insist you teach your children at home if you have no inclination to do so. It would in fact be a bad experience for both you and your children if it was something you did not accept and want to deal with.
Not every one is like you. Not everyone is like me. Do you really want only one kind of flower? Do you want only one kind of car? Is only one way of looking really handsome or pretty?
I have to take some exception at some of your comments on home schooling.
I was home schooled for the majority of my primary school years, and for me it was a positive experience.
One of the biggest pluses that you can get from home schooling is that you are taught to take a lot of responsibility for yourself & learning. You are not able to depend on teachers or other students to piggy-back you through. You have to be self motivated.
And that is always a plus, no matter where you are.
The only concern I have with home schooling, is the need to make sure that the child has adequate opportunity to learn social interaction and develop those other important social skills we learn when we spend time with other people.
But this is not a prohibitive issue that should keep children from being home schooled.
@Lisa,
Hey there, thanks for your comments. It puts me in different light.
I admit that I didn’t do any research on the matter and just voicing my personal opinions. So it is really good that you pointed out my faults.
“I have no doubt that home education is by far the best option if their parents are dedicated to it and have a love of learning themselves“.
I agree with that statement provided you added the “If” part emphasizing parents’ dedication. Again I wonder about whether all parents can dedicate enough time and effort for their children as current days both parents most probably be full time working parents. Average families cannot afford privato tutor or home educator like yourself. School in general has teachers who are paid to dedicate their time and responsibility of child well-being. My point is, for the families with working parents who cannot afford educator should not let their child to be home educated and it is better for them to send the kids to school. No parents I believe, want to get rid of their kids that cruelly. Sending to school is definitely not to get rid of your child but to make sure they learn how to fly on their own as well as yourself practicing how you will endure their departure once they got full grown wings. That is just my way of thinking.
If, however, you love spending time with your kids and love to see them get excited about learning something new then you would make a great home educater. You do not have to be rich or need to have any teaching qualifications or indeed any qualifications so long as you like learning yourself and are keen.
Yes, I believe so. But to do it, you need to be a full time mom and the question of how well your finances are if you decided to quit your job. I think part time Mom, cannot become a successful home educator even she is very keen to do so.
On your 5th point: Since you are a dedicated parent, your children are very lucky to experience those. Will all home-schoolers have such dedicated and caring parents like youself? Yes, national curriculums are some what restricted but overall it allows the equal chance for all the kids to have such experiences without the need of individual dedication from the parents.
Your 6th point: Oh yes, I very much agree to it. But can they always do/choose whatever they like in their life? Isn’t it good for them to learn how to handle a bit of pressure since from their childhood? Again just my thoughts.
The positives of home education are endless and I can honestly say that we have not found there to be any negatives…apart from having to continuously put up with ignorant comments like the ones in your article…
If you haven’t found any negatives then it is very good for you. But my believe is that everything has both positive and negatives, nothing in life is perfect. Like I mentioned in my post, I agreed to some positives as well as pointing out some negatives. I didn’t and couldn’t agree as all good or all bad. If you think my comments are ignorant then I’m sorry but everyone has their own views so my comments for me is quite justified for myself.
Oh yes, I really need to do lots of research and readings. Thanks for the resources you provided, I’ll look into those.
Most people in the uk use the term ‘home education’ not home school
Obviously, I’m not from UK and English is not my native tongue but I’ll take not of it. Thanks for correcting me.
You are very right and I’ll take your advice on more thinking and research.
Thank you very much Lisa for very helpful comment.
I really appreciate it.
@Karen
Hey Karen, thanks for your comment. Yes your kids is one of those exceptional cases where the child IQ and ability is way over the average students so your choice of home educating him is an excellent one. I would do the same too if I have such smart kid like yours.
I guess my comments are quite extreme and hash. I apologize for that. Yes I agree with all your points on individuality and I’ll try not to generalize over things as much as I can.
Thank you very much for your thoughtful comments as I can learn to see things from different aspect.
@Eva
Hi Eva, no I don’t have any children. These are just my merry thoughts and my vague “To-Do” list kind of things once I get marry and have kids.
I’m just a 23 year old single arrogant gal who tends to think extreme and foolishly voicing up her thoughts in somewhat ignorance manner.
I’m still learning from my mistakes and your comments really help me out.
My sincere thanks and I really appreciate it.
@Daniel
Hi Daniel, thanks for stopping and your comment. I didn’t know you home schooled before. Oh you turned out to be pretty good social and intellectual young man. Your parents must have done a great job on you. Oh my bad, you must have been a good, dedicated home-schooler.
Yes I believe so, you are a good kid back then knowing all your responsibilities and self motivations but most kids in nature lack those, so I assume. How did you learn to be self motivated? Rather, what are the factors of your motivation or being responsible? I think the main factor would be having good parents.
My experience with some home-schooler and those come from special school are somewhat irritating. I find them quite annoying; they turn to be some spoil kids and don’t understand the way normal kids do. Some of them are selfish and they don’t know the meaning of sharing and playing fair/equal in the game. They turn to be arrogant and proud, I therefore gathered they don’t mix well with other average kids. I also thought that their parents are the same too since they home-school their kid just to separate from mixing with other children. May be those are just my bad experience on them. Like Karen and Eva said, it must have been the individuality issue.
If we introduce home school system such that one in Fiji or Burma, I don’t think the results will turn out good (again generalization, my bad, can’t help it) especially, if it lacks the monitoring system for the home-school kids. Our society cannot handle the excessive freedom yet, for many parents don’t have time for their kids and cannot afford special educator. I guess home-school option is for an advance society such as UK and US. Well that’s why they introduce the concept.
Anyways…now the question which none of the commenter answered – What is your decision? Will you home-school your kid?
On the contrary, I developed a rather crude but effective method for cheating on the maths long-division questions. ;P
So I guess my parents did something right.
You’ve opened a can of worms here May … if you thought Opensource versus Microsoft software debate was a religious war then you ain’t seen nothing yet.
There are merits to both types of education and other commentors have touched both sides. There is no such thing as the perfect education and any system will have trade-offs. I’ve studied under both public and home-school systems, and wouldn’t trade the years of home-school for anything. They taught me, above all, the value of figuring things out for myself.
Let me address the negative points raised in your post, in defence of home-schooling:
The most frequent objection to home schooling is “social development”. This is a particular challenge to home schooling, but not an insurmountable one … to insist that “social development” can occur only in a classroom environment is a fallacy. In my experience, this excuse is most often trotted out by parents who feel guilty about leaving the development of their child in the hands of the public school system.
The public school system does not facilitate the handling of ‘different mind-sets’ … at best it throws different people together in a shared environment, at worst it insists that all those people develop identical sets of knowledge and skills to pass inflexible assessment.
This is nonsense. Being home-schooled does not mean that you can’t have friends from your community … and as for trips and exposure to the outside world, the flexibility of home-school allows for a wide variety of experiences, trips and excursions … usually to places and at times that would stump a normal class.
I’m sensing a bit of bitterness in this one … it may be true for some, but in my experience home-schoolers a usually quite independant and are quite happy to leave home … you wouldn’t want to live with the headmaster now, would you?
This is a paradox … distractions abound in the home, but conversely, once you master the art of getting stuff done in this environment, you can concentrate at will, in any environment.
And by the way … since when was the classroom free of distractions? Other people, whispered conversations, a novel inside your text-book, the girl in the next row you have a crush on, the teacher’s strange speech patterns, the gardner cutting the grass outside …
Now, as to your question. The vast majority of what a child learns will be from those around them, by absorption. It amazes me that we believe that throwing 20 (or 30) uneducated, immature children into a classroom will lead to mature, responsible, well-educated adults. I will make every effort to give my children the best possible start to life, by letting them learn and play at their own pace, exposing them to real people in real contexts from as young as possible, and as they grow older, letting them chose their own path to independance both in learning and living.